Can any community ever truly reach perfection? Humans are intrinsically selfish, riddled with questionable opinions and deeply bothered by otherness, so the answer is "no."

Still, I'd venture to say that lesbians, bi women, pansexual women, and queer women are doing a bang-up job, especially as far as dating, love, and sex go.

Heed these five bits of wisdom, and you, too, will see that God is a (queer) woman.

There's no such thing as a universally "hot" body

Fatphobia among gay, bi, and queer men is no secret. Does that sentiment exist among queer women? Sure, to a degree—but the pressure to be perfectly sculpted, coiffed, and Instagram-ready at all times is a more prevalent, in-your-face phenomenon among queer men. For many queer women, eschewing patriarchal, heteronormative ideas of how women should look is a fundamental part of our everyday lives; as a result, many of us place less emphasis on searching for a partner whose physique and presentation is conventionally "hot."

Queer women are making (and have made) major strides in embracing self-love, promoting body positivity, and expanding their idea of who or what is "hot." I can't speak for all women, but I can say that myself and my LGBTQ women friends recognize the damage the white supremacist cis-hetero patriarchy has done to our self-image. We're simultaneously impacted by systems of oppression that negatively affect women and LGBTQ people, so many of us are forced to actively un-learn those damaging, unrealistic beauty ideals as a means of survival. I challenge gay, bi, and queer men to do the same.

A little extra effort can go a long way

Contrary to popular belief, not all lesbians and queer women fit the infamous U-Haul stereotype. Plenty of us dig hookups and no-strings-attached situations.

I'm of the firm belief that there is no shame in casual sex between two consenting adults. I've also been known to evangelize the power of some well-placed romance. A night on the town, a good meal at a neighborhood hotspot, a small gift that fits where you're at in your relationship (or lack thereof) with your boo—all of these gestures communicate depth, thoughtfulness, and a connection that extends beyond just sex. So if that's what you're aiming for, considering going above and beyond with that cutie you've met up with a few times off Grindr.

Don't underestimate the power of sex toys

Queer women don't need sex toys to get it on, but many of us (looking at you, Nomi and Amanita from Sense8!) harbor a healthy respect for the power of a good vibrator or dildo. That is to say, sex toys come in nearly infinite shapes, sizes, and varieties, including options best suited to stimulate different body parts.

Adding one or two or many to your repertoire can be a worthwhile investment in the quality and versatility of your sex life. Plus, shopping for sex toys with your partner is pretty much guaranteed to be a good time. (Not as good as what comes afterward, of course, but hey, you gotta start somewhere.)

Sex shouldn't be all about you...

If there are three things women do well, it's being 1) communicative, 2) generous, and 3) reciprocal with our lovers. I'm generalizing, of course, but there's a reason that U-Haul joke exists, and that the literal distances queer women travel to get it on are unparalleled. Queer women are by and large pretty freaking good at sex.

Yes, "pillow princesses" exist, and we all enjoy different dynamics, positions, and sexual acts in bed, but the point still stands: If you're having sex with a partner, the entirety of the encounter shouldn't be about you and your pleasure. (Unless that's how you get off, in which case—hello! Refer to Point No. 1 and communicate that, honey!)

... and life shouldn't revolve around sex, either

Sure, sex is great and all, but have you ever been ushered into the comforting, (at least mostly) platonic embrace of a friend in a moment of need? Because that is some truly soul-soothing, skin-clearing, stress-erasing goodness.

One of the greatest joys of existing as queer people in queer communities is being afforded the opportunity to redefine society's ideas of which relationships—whether they're platonic, romantic, or somewhere in between—matter most. No matter how hot your current hookup or boo is, time with them shouldn't be prioritized over spending time and cultivating ties with your squirrel friends. No single person can fulfill your every emotional or physical want and need, nor should they be expected to do so.